Finding The Ideal Partner

I have to post on this. It’s too long to include in someone’s comments. I have been following KG’s little problem about whether to date an older person and the comments from everyone who has been weighing in on the matter.

I so totally relate. It really isn’t the easiest thing to find a partner. Or rather find what you consider the ideal partner. I don’t think my standards are too high. I just really need someone who has the following qualities.

Not bisexual
Honest and non-womanising
Caring and supportive and respectful
Intelligent
Preferably don’t have a string of children but I know it’s difficult to find a man who isn’t a father so that’s negotiable
Non-smoker
Financially OK (I don’t require rich but he must have a job, or something going, at this point in my life, I can’t handle any less)

I also realize that it might be pointless to even have a list of desired qualities, characteristics because the person might have all that and there’s just no chemistry. We’re talking about a life (or part of) partner so it really can’t even be reduced to a list. I sometimes wish that I could adopt a more pragmatic approach to finding a man. A friend/acquaintance of mine certainly has no such problem. My oh so practical friend sat me down recently and told me that I’m the ideal woman for him. He sees me and knows that I’m exactly what he wants because:

I’m quite educated
In a management position
Look nice and dress well
Has the potential to make plenty money
I’m of the right age

According to Mr. Practical (who’s also eductated, great management job etc) we’d make the perfect couple as two nice looking, young executives. He even went as far as to calculate (yes he actually crunched some numbers) that with our combined salaries we could purchase a nice $20million house together. According to him together we could have a good life. He tried to convince me that that’s the way to go and cited examples of Jamaica’s top rich families who seem to seemed to merge their families to their advantages.

Now I must admit that he had a point. He wasn’t doing anything that women haven’t been doing for years. Somehow though, I felt like a commodity. You know, I could easily well have been another pants or shirt. While listening to him, I couldn’t help thinking “but you don’t know ME, dont you want to know ME?” I couldn’t help looking at the contrast between my ‘suitor of 15 years‘ who I have not given the green light and thinking what a difference.

I find that you can find an ‘age appropriate’ person who is financially secure, good job, blah, blah but why is it that the ‘older’ person demonstrate the more caring attitude?